One of the reasons I have chosen to stay home with our children is the incredible teaching opportunities I get to have with them throughout the day. No one gets to spend as much time with them (well, soon-to-be
them) as I do, so I feel my job as a mother is one of incredible influence.
As well, the responsibilities to train, equip, and lead them so that they would ultimately know and love the Lord, to prepare them to someday live without us, all weigh heavy. Of course, I don't do this alone, as my husband is a tremendous part of this equation, but I am only speaking of my role. Therefore, I am thankful to say that I live this role out of calling and conviction, not out of mere economical choice or because being resigned to something lesser in life.
I don't know what our future educational choices will look like far down the road, but for now, I am committed to having them home until age six (we'll go from there) for a few reasons. First is the consistency and comfort that comes with being home with mom. Not everyone gets to do this, so I consider it an incredible privilege to savor the extra moments that will be gone soon (like watching them sleep) and the extra time that I don't have to rush around being on someone else's schedule (I get to set our schedule, yes!)
Second, is discipline and correction/teaching. Life's foundation of living as a person under authority (we are at whatever stage of life we are in) and understanding a worldview are being set
right now. I feel like I am working with wet cement. Someday it will dry. And although it can be cracked and reformed, so to speak,
now is the time to lay the groundwork for understanding who God is, who they are, and how all of those pieces work together. One of my favorite parenting books,
Teach Them Diligently, talks about how we are to teach in the milieu, meaning teaching (the whole of Scripture) in the moment of life occurring, in our environment, with consistency and constancy all throughout our days. Of course, this is all in reference to Deuterononmy 6:5-9:
"5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates."
How am I to teach all that God has given me to share if I am never around my children or spending any time with them, intentionally or leisurely? While I do think that the saying "spending quality time with your children is important" holds some weight, what I really believe is that spending large amounts of time with your children is even more important, because of the opportunities to train and instruct that arise simply by living life with them.
Thirdly, for a whole host of reasons, being home gives me the chance to tailor traditional schooling to their needs or add what might be lacking in a regular setting. For instance, we can spend extra time on a subject, add a subject that is not taught, or go more in depth in worldview to explain things that we personally disagree with and want our children to be more informed.
I started this post simply to share some of my favorite resources that we use to help shape our parenting philosophy, and some toddler resources I have been using. In the midst of this I have ended up feeling the need to share what affects our decision making in regards to teaching and raising children, thus influencing our educational choices.
I'll be honest to say that I do think the ideal is that every mom would have the blessing and opportunity to stay home, at least for more of the time. I know that every family is different. This post is not meant to be condemning in nature or judgmental, but merely an explanation as to how our family is structured and why. I encourage you follow conviction's lead to do what you can and to not let life and opportunity pass you by; to be with your children as much as possible even if that comes at some kind of sacrifice (which, to some degree, it usually does). If you are now right where you are supposed to be in life, more power to you and I encourage you to continue!
Now, without further adieu, I'll post some resources in my next entry so you can read what I really intended to write about :) ....